Regardless of the times that our parents told us not to do something, there was always an urge within us to see what it was like... Whether it be a hot frying pan or a cookie from the jar, a lesson was always to be learned. I think learning lessons are probably the best part of the journey in life. A lesson learned is a step taken toward wholeness. What can we do with our mistakes in choosing to step back or forward? Choose wholeness, I reckon. The journey. Wholeness. Walk. Run.
Countless lessons that have inched across my path which have brought me to my face on the floor. I'd have to admit, more than a few times, not just to the floor, but into the gutter of wasted opportunities. I would hate to think that I put my hand into the errors of my choices that would result in empty loss. No, I believe that in every poor choice, one learns the lesson applied, in which of course, how to respond or how to live the change. Living the changed life requires awareness of what its like to be on the floor. If you don't get up off the floor, then a different story is told of how you bailed out. Walked out. Did it get too complicated for you? Did you just give up because you are a quitter ? Now is the chance to wipe off the dust from the floor and peer up into the hills.
Putting your hand into the most complicated situations often becomes painful for you.
And for others.
Putting your hand into other people's complications without being asked can simply been observed as character criticism. You know the look of a bothered individual that you've just taken your hand into the midst of their complications uninvited. Its a mix of a
"how dare you,"
"can I trust you,"
As a child, when we were caught with our hands in the thick of a complicated jar of chocolate chip cookies, those who cared for us would attempt to get involved with our current situation of wanting yet another cookie after being told no. We look at the parental units and question their authority and perhaps even their motives. Do they really not want us to have a cookie? Or were they just being bossy?
Trust and dare. Don't worry about what other people think as long as you are accomplishing the call you are to answer.
Often times the door of opportunity is stirred between trust and dare. Do we trust the opportunity before us or do we see it as a daring chance of rolling a bad mix of dicey loss? Yet, in our mind, as we stand at the door of opportunity, we see all of the reminders of the times that our hands have been in the complicated life that can provide us the answers required to move forward or to choose another door. We see the hands of others that grab out to complicate our hearts and minds, but yet, we have to steer clear and pursue the journey forward through the doors of trust and dare.
"A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl."
~ Stephan Hoeller
As we grow into our years, we learn that the hand in the lives of others is dependent on trust and authentic compassion. We only want to allow others into our lives with their hands stuck in our hearts when we daringly trust their motives, heart, and intention. You got ripped up. You got shredded up by those you trusted most, who had their hands in your cookie jar. They took the cookie and left you empty. However, in that empty filled spot, comes a sense of loss that can be replaced by sense of new direction in the choosing to daringly step onward through the door of trust. What is next? What is next on the journey.
It will never serve any of us to grab onto the hand that is in our cookie jar and painfully squeeze it to break the bones. It will only cause resentment, grief, and bitterness.
When you think about squeezing the blood out of the hand that is in your empty cookie jar, I will always remember the place to push that hand too...
Let the hands go... The resentment and bitterness will go as well...