When one accepts defeat, it is not the end, its rather the realization that one lets go of control. Its ownership of reality that we are who we are, and not one to be better, nor one to be worse that the expectations one places on us.
Pity to the one who believes they soar above the rest, only to look down with an attitude of betterment and to run, stating their success was based on the defeat of the one below them. I am reminded of Martin Luther King Jr.'s proclaiming statement,
“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”
― Martin Luther King, Jr.
So, as one knows how difficult life was for MJK Jr. he forwarded onward with great strength and resilience, even in the face of great adversity. How the strife was experienced in his daily step, however, to realize that in his actions, lives were changed and people were set free from bondage of pain and suffering. Many called him "ignorant, stupid, and worse," however, even among Christ followers, he was mocked and ridiculed for standing for the rights of those who had been separated by ignorance.
When one states that they claim to know more, its a great big flag of caution to direct your attention toward God and seek His wisdom. The wisdom of humans can be greatly diluted by the self bloated intentions of one's earthly desire to rise to the top of success.
Only in great humility and realization of one's inability to solely do anything of any value, does one gain the strength to accomplish great tasks of extraordinary feats. Why? Because it comes from the source, Christ Himself.
In that very thought, for me, arrives the awareness that life can be as difficult as we desire it to be. A choice, an attitude, a thought, and a resilience resembles the authenticity of the desire to survive. We choose how we handle the journey of life and the normalcy of gaps, bumps, and cracks in the path only give us the opportunity to rise or fall in the act of acceptance of the famous expression, "what come what may,"
When the may comes, and it certainly does reveal "what", we sometimes screech out in complete horror, "how could this have happened to me?" or perhaps we'll grizzle with anger, "why does it always fall on my shoulders?"
It's then that we can plug in simple statement, "its as difficult as we make it," and I certainly do not state a simple "cop out" or rationalize the fact that it may not be fair what the "come what may" was, however, whatever it was, doesn't negate a complicated response.
Why does one feel the need to respond with such complexity? MLK Jr. stated it once,
"People fail to get along because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don't know each other; they don't know each other because they have not communicated with each other.”
― Martin Luther King, Jr.
If one would take the simple act of reaching out to know, life would seem to flow in harmonious simplicity of trusting the opportunity to hear the other person in the gentle act of communication.
The power struggle of reaching out really begins in the willingness to let go. If you can't let go, you'll never reach out. If you are never really willing to let go, then you'll really never be ready to be humble. If you are never really willing to be humble, you'll really never be able to enter into the child like faith of trusting a God who already took care of it for you.
How can you reach out with a clenched fist of anger or frustration, or of judgement, or of self-righteousness ? It will never pass for being able to reach out, because one will see that your reach is in vain as you never let go to begin with. Its so tragic that so many have reached out in humility, only to be slapped in the face of glaring pride.
To communicate, is to risk. Is to reach out. Is to live and breath.
In the communication will be some of the answers to realizing how hard do we want life to be. For ourselves, for others, and most importantly for all of eternity.
Before one decides that life is difficult, we consider a few random breaths. Words spoken from a heart full of gratitude for those who chose to make life simple, with fluidity of song in the awareness that Christ's love had taken care of the complexity long before we even had to consider communicating the passion to reach out and love others, when He had already loved first.
Reach out in humility will reveal humanity's fragility.